Have you ever found yourself thinking, “No matter how hard I try, I can’t seem to change my behaviors and achieve my goals”? If so, you’re far from alone. Research shows that only 20% of people who set goals actually achieve them. So what is the reason behind it? As it turns out, changing behaviors is the key to conquering goals both in the short term and the long-term.
First, we have to define what goals really are. Psychology defines them as progress. Making progress towards a specific goal is the definition of changing behaviors. Unfortunately, change is far from easy. It begins with an idea or a wish to be a certain way, achieve a certain something, or alter your life in a certain way.
Experts believe that at the core of moving past addiction and poor habits, is our identity. So, it stands to reason that if you change the person you believe you are you can move towards new habits. Doing so makes it easier to change your actions.
When we struggle against our goals, it’s because we haven’t changed our belief in ourselves. For example, if you wanted to lose weight and be a healthier individual you have to stop identifying with the unfit, dissatisfied person you are today. Until you do, you’ll find yourself making excuses for why you have to eat the chocolate cake and drink the beer.
Nevertheless, you can indeed change your habits and transform the way you identify yourself before you achieve your goals. You first have to decide the type of person you want to be. Then you have to prove it to yourself with small progress.
Back to the previous example, if you want to lose weight, start identifying yourself as a person who exercises on a regular basis. The trick is to start small and then as you begin to become the new person you are hoping to become you develop confidence.
If you belief you are the person in your vision already, you can then find the motivation to change your behaviors, even in small ways. Don’t be too hard on yourself and assume you have to change everything about yourself in one sitting, however. Whether you’re fighting addiction, struggling to achieve your goals or just want to start changing behaviors, the key is to respect your progress and document it when you notice it.
Conquering goals can easily be done with the right mindset and motivation. If you believe you already have that which you are seeking, you stand a better chance to get up in the morning and head to the gym or start following a budget. Your behaviors are what you essentially want to change, and since we are what we do, you also want change who you are. Start taking small steps and discover a new way to live the life you want to live.